8 WAYS TO BE A SUPPORTIVE SPOUSE DURING AND AFTERMATH OF PANDEMIC

By Pundit Quintessential

In most parts of the world, it feels like the world has come to, or is coming to, an END. Habitual perceptions of the world around us are being disrupted. And people are gripped by immobilizing panic and anxiety. Imagine being this helpless with all the stolen (and starched away) wealth. Frankly, wealth cannot bribe nature.

As Covid-19 ravages the whole world wide, it is almost safe to say recession becomes inevitable during and after the pandemic. Truth be told, many will go from lockdown to unemployment. It is already planning out. Since the loss of a job can put the vow “FOR BETTER or FOR WORSE” to the test, these tips will help you and your spouse pull through.

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  1. ANTICIPATE WHAT COMES NEXT – As soon as possible , after a job loss, you and your husband should sit down together and strategies not only about how to go job hunting, but ways you can minimize or eliminate conflicts that come with unemployment stress. The days ahead aren’t going to be easy. Put your heads together to come up with a “plan of attack” because that’s exactly what you’ll need to handle the pressure that can undermine a marriage in these tough circumstances.
  2. HAVE A POSITIVE MINDSET – Job loss often leads to a loss of self-esteem and self-worth. This is why it is important to remind your spouse of all the things he or she is good at and the reasons they have succeeded in the past. Having an encouraging cheerleader on his or her side will give your spouse the confidence and ability to fight off any feelings of doubt, sadness and shame.
  3. DRAW UP A SURVIVAL PLAN – This is not only peculiar to job loss as a result of coronavirus outbreak; the first step to defeating the stress associated with a job loss is a mindset that unemployment is a temporary and manageable situation. The repeated rejection that comes with a job search is hard , but the odds are that a new job will eventually surface if you both remain focused and deliberate in your quest.
  4. SPEND TIME ALONE – Insist on at least one night a week when you can schedule time alone. Doing that will avail you the time to brainstorm` and have quiet time. Help your husband understand that the time you spend on yourself will help you become a better spouse when you’re together because it definitely will.
  5. BE A CHEERLEADER – Remind yourself and your spouse to take this one-day at a time. Help your spouse avoid thinking and believing that he or she will never find another job. Be positive in your attitudes and PRAY together every day for God’s provision for your physical, emotional and material needs and for your relationship .Communication is key! Keep talking because deliberate communication mitigates the effects of depression and helps boost bruised self-esteem.
  6. SET DAILY AGENDAS – Accept the fact that you’ll have good days and bad days. On the good days, discuss what makes them good and brainstorm on ways to keep up positive energy (going to bed at a reasonable hour, rising together, morning exercise, prayer time, etc.). Maintain a routine as much as possible. Be mutually accountable, setting a daily agenda for both of you, it helps.
  7. HAVE FUN TOGETHER AS A COUPLE – Plan activities together that will help you let off steam. Many recreation centres have occasional “free” days. Get outside in the fresh air, take a bike ride or go on a picnic. Plan a time where you agree to put aside job worries and focus only on having fun together as a couple.
  8. KEEP THE FAITH ALIVE – Your spouse is no doubt experiencing a tough time, but you are too. Remember, “Tough Times Never Last But Tough People Do”. Pray for energy, compassion, patience and insight to help you pull through this challenging season. And remember, like all the seasons that make up a life, this too shall pass.

Every country is looking to join the few that have controlled the epidemic for now and are focusing on preventing resurgence. No doubts, its spread has left businesses and companies around the world counting costs .The economic fallout from the pandemic threatens to wipe out many different kinds of jobs, not just in hospitality and travel but also in spaces including sports and entertainment as well as manufacturing.  However, the next stages in every country are unknowable.

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